Friday, May 18, 2007

"疯狂妈妈"在行动 社会准备好了吗?

"疯狂妈妈"在行动 社会准备好了吗?


时间: 2007-05-14 10:28:51 来源:中国青年报 【关闭

    “育民小学招特长生呢,快去报名考试吧”,最近这一消息在北京一群家长中传播着,也传到了刘梅的耳朵里。

    北京的春天很短,越发让人珍惜,但是对于刘梅来说,再美的春色也无法打动她,因为她的儿子要上小学了。一时间,给儿子找到一个最好的小学成了刘梅生活的全部。有朋友评价,“这人快疯了”。

  托了10多个关系只为上最好的学校

    按照“过来人”的指点,刘梅把儿子入小学的目标圈定在了史家小学和府学胡同小学。

    刘梅选学校可是费了一番心思的。

    首先得是名校,“因为名校师资才有保证”;其次要离家别太远,“这样接送都方便”;再有不选那些“真”搞素质教育或快乐教育的学校,“孩子在这样的学校倒是快乐了,可是好中学不喜欢,觉得孩子的知识学得不扎实”。

    其实,刘梅家户口所在地附近就有一所还算不错的小学,有不少家长羡慕刘梅有这么好的资源。北京市对于适龄儿童入学有非常明确的规定,所有的孩子都要在户口所在地或居住地就近入学,禁止非正常的跨区、跨片儿入学。

    刘梅觉得这个“片儿”里的学校不够理想,不足以保证儿子能走出一条光明的求学之路。

    不巧的是刘梅锁定的目标都不在他们家户口所在地的“片儿”内,但是跨片儿可不是一件容易的事。

    为了遏制择校热,北京市今年出台了更为严格的政策,这给刘梅目标的实现带来了不小的麻烦。

    刘梅和丈夫都是老实巴交的工薪族,这样的背景对于实现“择校大业”真是难。刘梅于是动员了自己和丈夫的所有社会关系,“我们现在已
经托了十条线了”,刘梅的丈夫说。可是,拐了好几弯的“关系”对于儿子上学的事似乎起不了什么太大的作用,相反,一些负面的消息接踵而来。

    他们所托的一个人传回消息:今年跨区、跨片儿的决定权已经上升到了区县,这意味着刘梅夫妇必须找到更“硬”的关系才能实现儿子上好学校的梦想;又有人透露,刘梅锁定的两所学校,一个即使有关系也很难进去,一个最少要交6万元。

    刘梅的丈夫开始打退堂鼓了。

    但是刘梅仍然很坚决:一定要让孩子上好学校,无论有多难,无论花多少钱!

    为求最好教育路宁作校门“耗子军”

    像刘梅这样,为孩子上学着急的家长大有人在,但是与陆铭比起来,刘梅可不算什么。

    陆铭的女儿在北京中关村一所小学念书,她的班主任小培老师介绍,陆铭是他们班家长的“领头人”,家长们小升初的信息几乎都来自陆铭。“她从女儿上六年级起就不工作了,全职陪读”,小培老师说。

    据介绍,女儿刚上六年级,陆铭便开始着手准备女儿的小升初。一次,上司向她要应聘人员简历的时候,她错把为女儿制作的简历也混在里面交了上去,结果她被解聘了。

    从此以后,陆铭有了更多的时间,给女儿制定了周密的升学计划。综合女儿的实际情况,她把几年来为女儿升学所上的数学、英语、钢琴、美术等补习班进行了重新整合,筛选出最有价值的“班”进行突击,并准备加入“耗子军”的行列。

    “耗子军”专指那些在中学门口为孩子排队报名考试的家长。陆铭打听到,往年最厉害的一个“耗子军”,手里拿到过十多所学校的面试通知。

    不过,让陆铭心里不踏实的是,今年的小升初政策似乎有所变化,一个孩子只能在两所学校报名。这让陆铭多少有些遗憾。她已经参照过来人的经验及自己半年多的积累,给女儿拉出了一个准备面试的学校名单,“英雄无用武之地”了。

    为什么疯狂的多是妈妈在水涨船高的环境中自我逼迫

    “说来也奇怪,每年孩子升学的时候,最疯狂的大多是孩子的妈妈”,小培介绍。

    记者按照小培老师的指引进入了奥数网的小学六年级家长讨论区,在这里真的找到一群“长”在这里的妈妈。她们称自己为“小痴”,即
“小升初痴狂者”。用她们自己的话来形容就是:“睁眼小升初,闭眼小升初;张口小升初,闭口小升初;白天小升初,夜晚小升初;上班小升初,下班小升初;坐
也小升初,卧也小升初;左也小升初,右也小升初。”

    一位妈妈在论坛上这样说:“孩子,不是妈狠心不给你快乐的童年,不是妈不通情达理逼你去学习,更不是妈剥夺你玩的权利,只是重点中学的门槛太高了,妈不得不逼你学习学习没商量”。

    “与妈妈们相比,爸爸似乎更在乎孩子发展的大方向,不太在意是上这所学校还是那所学校,尤其是当两所学校差别不是很大的时候;而妈
妈则容易把孩子的发展细化到上哪所学校,选哪个老师,跟什么同学交往等等。另外,与爸爸相比,妈妈更容易把孩子视为自己的‘产物’,因此,他们把孩子发展
的任何一步都看得很重,也更不介意为孩子付出辛劳”,小培老师以自己近20年的经验如此分析。

    其实,疯狂的并不是只有妈妈,“关键在于爸爸妈妈谁受到的‘刺激’更多以及所受刺激的程度”,北京家长武浩说。

    武浩在高校当老师,他一直希望儿子能有一个快乐的童年,只要学好课堂上的知识就可以了。但是妻子却主张给孩子课外加课,理由是为升学做准备。

    一次儿子过生日,武浩让儿子把同学请到家里来一起开party(聚会)。聚会很热闹,孩子们有的弹钢琴,有的拉小提琴,有的跳舞,
个个使出好本领。这时,武浩发现一个孩子躲在角落里一句话不说,闷闷不乐的。武浩慢慢地走到了这个孩子跟前,刚要跟他说话,这个孩子一下子扑到武浩怀里大
哭了起来。

    这件事给武浩的震动很大,“我真的没想到,课外学习的孩子已经成了绝大多数”,从此以后武浩再也不拦着妻子了,别的孩子学什么,只要儿子不特别反感就会给他报班,“这已经是他们的生存环境了,我们不能改变环境,只能逼着改变自己”,武浩说。

    你家孩子学了这个,我家孩子就再多学个那个。就这样,水涨船高,孩子们的童年时光越来越少。

    今年不少家长给孩子做的简历中已经放上了公共英语三级的证书,两年前,一个公共英语一级的证书就可以使这份简历很有竞争力了。

    孩子刚出生就到幼儿园报到 疯狂的多米诺骨牌已经启动

    这种“疯狂”就像势力逐渐加强的台风,原来处在风口浪尖的是准备升初中的小学六年级,慢慢地小学四五年级的学生和家长也卷了进来,进而小学低年级的学生和家长被卷了进来,现在像刘梅这种准备进小学的学生家长就进入了疯狂的漩涡。

    这股狂风又刮进了幼儿园。

    嘉琳的姐姐刚生了小孩,现在她正得了姐姐的命令,托人到附近一家幼儿园为才几个月大的外甥女报个名。

    这家幼儿园是个一类幼儿园,既是公办幼儿园又有非常好的设备和师资,而且还引进了国外一些先进的育儿理念。北京有不少家长把孩子送到这所幼儿园来,其中一个最远的小朋友,每天要花将近两个小时才能从家到幼儿园。

    嘉琳的姐姐听说,要想进这家幼儿园至少要提前两年排队。

    正在家里待产的小余甚至也被拉进了这个序列中。她正准备重新购置房产,要把幼儿园和小学的质量作为衡量房产的重要指标。她希望未出世的宝宝将来能顺利进入好的学校。而且她也为宝宝的未来描绘好了蓝图。

    疯狂的多米诺骨牌已经启动了。北京一位网名为“家有小六”的妈妈在论坛中这样写道:可怜的孩子,妈知道你急了,都累的筋疲力尽了,可是你知道吗?妈妈也都快疯了,为了你能有个好的将来,妈妈只能誓把自己逼疯把你逼傻了。

    北京市教委一位官员在接受记者采访时表示,现在北京市的家长似乎已经形成了某种择校文化,好像不给孩子择校就没有尽到父母的责任,
父母就没有本事。而现在北京市城区的小学、中学之间没有特别大的差距,择校的必要性不是很大。另外,按照生物进化的理论,越是高等的动物幼年期就会越长,
人是最高等的动物,但是,现在一些家长疯狂的做法正是在想方设法地缩短孩子的儿童期,从某种意义上说是一种对孩子的摧残,在孩子性格成长等方面肯定会产生
极负面的影响,“从生态伦理学的角度说,成人的观点和想法侵犯了孩子的生命”。 (记者 樊未晨)





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Thursday, March 15, 2007

Eczema

http://www.kidshealth.org/parent/infections/skin/eczema_atopic_dermatitis.html

Most kids get itchy rashes at one time or another. But eczema can be
a nuisance that may prompt scratching that can only make the problem
worse.



The term eczema refers to a number of different skin conditions in
which the skin is red and irritated and occasionally results in small,
fluid-filled bumps that become moist and ooze. The most common cause of
eczema is atopic dermatitis, sometimes called infantile eczema although it occurs in infants and older children.



The word "atopic" describes conditions that occur when someone is
overly sensitive to allergens in their environment such as pollens,
molds, dust, animal dander, and certain foods. "Dermatitis" means that
the skin is inflamed, or red and sore.





Kids who get eczema often have family members with hay fever, asthma, or other allergies.
Some scientists think these children may be genetically predisposed to
get eczema, which means characteristics have been passed on from
parents through genes that make a child more likely to get it.



About half of the kids who get eczema will also someday develop hay fever or asthma themselves. Eczema is not an allergy itself, but allergies can trigger eczema. Some environmental factors (such as excessive heat or emotional stress) can also trigger the condition.



About one out of every 10 kids develops eczema. Typically, symptoms
appear within the first few months of life, and almost always before a
child turns 5. But the good news is that more than half of the kids who
have eczema today will be over it by the time they're teenagers.



What Are the Signs and Symptoms?



Signs and symptoms of eczema can vary widely during the early
phases. Between 2 and 6 months of age (and almost always before the age
of 5 years), children with eczema usually develop itchy, dry, red skin
and small bumps on their cheeks, forehead, or scalp. The rash may
spread to the extremities (the arms and legs) and the trunk, and red,
crusted, or open lesions may appear on any area affected.



Kids with eczema may also experience circular, slightly raised,
itchy, and scaly rashes in the bends of the elbows, behind the knees,
or on the backs of the wrists and ankles.



As children get older, the rash is usually less oozy and scalier
than it was when the eczema first began, and the skin is extremely
itchy and dry. These symptoms also tend to worsen and improve over
time, with flare-ups occurring periodically.



Children often try to relieve the itching by rubbing the affected
areas with a hand or anything within reach. But scratching can make the
rash worse and can eventually lead to thickened, brownish areas on the
skin. This is why eczema is often called the "itch that rashes" rather
than the "rash that itches."



How Long Does It Last?



In many cases, eczema goes into remission and symptoms may disappear altogether for months or even years.



For many children, the condition begins to improve by the age of 5 or 6; but others may experience flare-ups throughout adolescence and early adulthood.



In some kids, the condition may improve and then resurface at the onset of puberty
when hormones, stress, and irritating skin products or cosmetics are
introduced (or due to other factors that scientists don't yet
understand). And some people will experience some degree of dermatitis
into adulthood, experiencing areas of itching and a dry, scaly
appearance.



Is It Contagious?



Eczema is not contagious, so there's no need to keep a baby or child who has it away from siblings, other children, or anyone else.



Can It Be Prevented?



Scientists believe that eczema is inherited, so there's no way to prevent the condition. However, because specific triggers may tend to make it worse, flare-ups can be prevented or improved by avoiding possible triggers such as:



  • pollen
  • mold
  • dust
  • animal dander
  • dry winter air with little moisture
  • allowing the skin to become too dry
  • certain harsh soaps and detergents
  • certain fabrics (such as wool or coarsely woven materials)
  • certain skin care products, perfumes, and colognes (particularly those that contain alcohol)
  • tobacco smoke
  • some foods (Which foods may be eczema triggers depends on the
    person, but dairy products and acidic foods like tomatoes seem to be
    common culprits.)
  • emotional stress
  • excessive heat
  • sweating


Also, curbing the tendency to scratch the rash can prevent the
condition from worsening and progressing to cause more severe skin
damage or secondary infection.



How Is It Diagnosed?



Diagnosing eczema can be challenging because:



  • Each child experiences a unique combination of symptoms that also tend to vary in severity.
  • It's sometimes confused with other skin conditions, such as seborrheic dermatitis (better known as "cradle cap"), psoriasis (a genetic disease that causes the skin to become scaly and inflamed), and contact dermatitis (caused by direct skin contact with an irritating substance, such as a metal, medicine, or soap).
  • There's no test available to diagnose it definitively.


If your child's doctor suspects eczema, a thorough medical history
is likely to be the most valuable diagnostic tool. A personal or family
history of hay fever, other allergies, or asthma is often an important
clue.



In addition to doing a physical examination, the doctor will likely
ask you and your child about any concerns and symptoms your child has,
your child's past health, your family's health, any medications your
child is taking, any allergies your child may have, and other issues.



The doctor will also help you identify things in your child's
environment that may be contributing to the skin irritation. For
example, if your child started using a new soap or lotion before the
symptoms appeared, mention this to the doctor because a substance in
the soap might be irritating your child's skin.



Your child's doctor may also ask you and your child about any stress
he or she might be feeling at home, school, or work (for older kids),
because stress can lead to eczema flare-ups.



Your child's doctor will also probably:



  • Examine the distribution and appearance of the rash.
  • Ask about how long the rash has been there.
  • Look for evidence of thickening of the skin from itching or rubbing (this is called lichenification).


The doctor will also want to rule out other diseases and conditions
that can cause skin inflammation, which means that your child may have
to be seen more than once before a diagnosis is made. The doctor may
also recommend sending your child to a dermatologist or an allergist.



Sometimes, the doctor may refer your child to an allergist to
perform allergy testing to find out if the rash is an allergic reaction
to a certain substance.



Allergy testing can involve one or more of the following:



  • a blood test
  • a patch test (which involves placing a patch of suspected allergen, such as dyes or fragrances, on the skin)
  • scratch/prick tests (which involve placing suspected allergens on the skin or injecting them into the skin)


Your child's doctor may also ask you to eliminate certain foods (such as eggs, milk, soy, or nuts) from your child's diet,
switch detergents or soaps, or make other changes for a certain period
of time to find out whether your child has a reaction to a particular
substance.



How Is It Treated?



Topical corticosteroids, also called cortisone or steroid creams or ointments, are commonly used to treat eczema and are not the same as the steroids used by some athletes. These medicines are usually applied directly to the affected areas twice a day.



Continue to apply the corticosteroids for as long as your child's
doctor suggests. It's also important not to use a topical steroid
prescribed for someone else. These creams and ointments vary in
strength, and using the wrong strength in sensitive areas can damage
the skin, especially in infants.



Nonsteroid medications are also available now in creams or ointments
that can be used instead of - or in conjunction with - topical steroids.



Other prescription treatments your child's doctor may recommend could include:



  • antihistamines (to help to control itching)
  • oral or topical antibiotics (to prevent or treat secondary infections, which are common in children with eczema)


Some older children with severe eczema may also be treated with
ultraviolet light under the supervision of a dermatologist to help
clear up their condition and make them more comfortable. In some cases,
newer medications that change the way the skin's immune system reacts
are also prescribed.



What Can I Do to Help My Child?



You can help prevent or treat your child's eczema by keeping your
child's skin from becoming dry or itchy and avoiding known triggers
that cause flare-ups. It may help to follow these suggestions:



  • Avoid giving your child frequent hot baths, which tend to dry the skin.
  • Use warm water with mild soaps or nonsoap cleansers when bathing your child.
  • Avoid using scented soaps.
  • Ask your child's doctor if it's OK to use oatmeal soaking products in the bath to help control the itching.
  • Avoid excessive scrubbing and toweling after bathing your child. Instead, gently pat your child's skin dry.
  • Avoid dressing your child in harsh or irritating
    clothing, such as wool or coarsely woven materials. Dress your child in
    soft clothes that "breathe," such as those made from cotton.
  • Apply moisturizing ointments (such as petroleum jelly), lotions, or
    creams to your child's skin regularly and always within a few minutes
    of bathing, after a very light towel dry. Even if your child is using a
    corticosteroid cream prescribed by the doctor, apply moisturizers or
    lotions frequently (ideally, two to three times a day). But be sure to
    avoid alcohol-containing lotions and moisturizers, which can make your
    child's skin drier. Some baby products can also contribute to
    children's dry skin.
  • Apply cool compresses (such as a wet, cool washcloth) on the irritated areas of your child's skin to ease itching.
  • Keep your child's fingernails short to minimize any skin damage caused by scratching.
  • Try having your child wear comfortable, light gloves to bed if scratching at night is a problem.
  • Help your child avoid becoming overheated, which can lead to flare-ups.
  • Eliminate any known allergens such as certain foods, dust, or pet
    dander from your household. (This has been shown to help the condition
    in some young children.)
  • Have your child drink plenty of water, which adds moisture to the skin.


Although eczema can be annoying and uncomfortable for children, its
emotional impact can become the most significant problem as your child
gets older - especially during the preteen and teen years. And your
child will need to take responsibility for following the strategies
described above.



You can help by teaching your preteen or teen to:



  • Establish a skin care routine. Brief, lukewarm showers or baths and
    moisturizing regularly will help to avoid or alleviate flare-ups.
  • Use only hypoallergenic makeup and sunscreens and facial moisturizers labeled noncomedogenic and oil free.
  • Recognize stressful situations (such as taking tests at school or
    sports competitions) and how to manage them (such as by breathing,
    focusing on an enjoyable activity, or taking a break).
  • Be aware of scratching and minimize it as much as possible.


When Should You Call Your Child's Doctor?



Children and teens with eczema are prone to skin infections, especially with Staph bacteria and herpesvirus. Call your child's doctor immediately if you notice any of the early signs of skin infection, which may include:



  • increased fever
  • redness and warmth on or around affected areas
  • pus-filled bumps on or around affected areas
  • areas on the skin that look like cold sores or fever blisters


Also, call your child's doctor if you notice a sudden change or
worsening of your child's condition or if your child's eczema isn't
responding to the doctor's recommendations.



Even though eczema can certainly be bothersome for kids and parents
alike, taking some preventative precautions and following the doctor's
orders can help to keep your child's eczema under control.



Updated and reviewed by: Barbara P. Homeier, MD


Date reviewed: May 2005


Originally reviewed by: Patrice Hyde, MD



Sunday, February 11, 2007

湿疹

1. 郁美净最便宜的那种,1元左右,袋装粉色
2. 她告诉了我一个土方,我报着试试的态度去做了,结果非常有效: 去药店买一些艾叶,大概12块一斤,一斤就基本足够你把宝宝的湿疹治好,回家用少量艾叶包在纱布里放在澡盆里,然后用烧开的水直接冲在艾叶上,然后加冷 水,水会呈微褐色,然后用这水给宝宝洗澡,脸上有就用纱布多洗洗,保证用不了几次你就会看到效果,而且什么湿疹药都会有副作用和激素,但这个方法有益无 害,因为艾叶本身是去火去热的东西!(是用纱布包装一点,烧开,然后兑在洗澡水里,头发和脸一起洗就可以了)
3. 用母亲的乳汁给孩子洗脸。
4. 首都儿科研究所”的“肤乐霜”(又名湿疹膏)很好,就给宝宝买了一盒,
5. 我给宝宝用了“孩儿面”面霜,她的小脸再也不起湿疹了。
6. 中药店买1两黄柏,回家分成5份煎水放凉给宝宝擦在患处。我家宝宝2次就好了

Friday, January 05, 2007

孩子脸上湿疹怎么办

。不要着急,很多孩子都有长湿疹,而且要做好长期抗战的准备,比如3年。
2。看是不是给孩子穿多了,如果孩子老出汗,少穿点。
3。如果孩子的头发长了,湿疹会藏在里面,最好把头发剃了。
4。看看是不是孩子对你吃的东西过敏(母乳喂养),如鸡蛋、鱼虾等。
5。如果很严重,需要抹点药: 儿研所的“肤乐霜”——只能去儿研所开
或“苗岭洁肤霜”——各个药店都有卖,我家孩子用了很好使
6。每天给孩子全身涂“郁美净”,最便宜的那种$1.4/袋。